Daughter dating a bad boy

I also know that being the bad boy has resulted in a higher number of dates or attraction. I quit the act in college and was just my nice guy self for many years without locating the right one for me up until last year at This typically is a red flag that she has some issues that will definitely come to a head with in a short time frame in the relationship.

Swank, I am with you on this…I sort of go back and forth though and how I interact with different women.

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Someone relayed to me what sounds like a good piece of advice she received as a young girl: Instead generate a short list of the attributes you know you do not want, things which you will not compromise on. Bad boys have sex appeal.

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You learn from them. This, IMO, is a much better formula for a happy life. You sort of make them feel useless. Dating scene where I live is insanely bad. Currently going back to school.

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A few extra pounds. Great—and the selling point there is what exactly? The question for you though is, at 43, do you want to settle down or no? Some women thinks that they can changed the guy.

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In reality, the majority failed. Personally, I am always attracted to nice, responsible, supportive, possess a certain level of intelligence and husband material types of guys. The bad boy, mouthy or unmotivated type of guys are a turn off for me. I am not stronge enough to deal with excessive of dramas. I keep asking myself that question…! Why do I insist on finding emotionally unavailable guys that make me unhappy! If you are not used to getting a lot of love from your parents, how are you going to handle getting it from a guy?

These posts are always entertaining to me. He tends to tell the same ten jokes and give less of a percentage of his income to charity than the bartender, not to mention his odds of not catching anything yet. The question is, as a parent, which bachelor would you like your daughter to choose?

Hmmmm… The first two are so unhappy with their own lives that it seems unlikely that anyone would be happy with them. He sounds a bit like a hobbit — main character, may save the world, but not going to get the girl. You hope that they can grow to love each other and she has enough space to follow her own dreams…. I think there are a lot of misperceptions when it comes to what girls want. I want someone who can hold his own in a relationship, and truly be a partner.

With 5, it all comes down to personality. Are we going to be partners? There are two people in a relationship. Thanks for being honest about going out with a schizofrenic alcoholic multiple personality guy! That musta been exciting yeah? The is a missing variable in this post…the personality, looks, and ambition of your theoretical daughter.

Who says that bachelor 4 or 5 wants to put up with your daughter? What if your daughter is selfish? Romeo, you make a lot of sense. I think your assessment here is too logical. Women react to feeling more than anything else. Honestly, it matters to me. That was my issue back home in Colorado. Sam, start a dating site.

I was going to be one of those guys in Squaw, Tahoe and just live in my place, write in the morning, board midday, hot tub and fun at night. Sure, but both towns are a bit far from Denver for legitimate dating. It generally means no service industry, working full time at REI, being a personal trainer, or being a whitewater rafting guide and not wanting to do anything beyond that.

I should clarify my response. Trust me, I have met some good looking bartenders up there. I think this is part of the reason why so many cultures came up with arranged marriage. The whole arranged marriage thing avoids this set of dilemmas. Lol, that is a good theory about the reason for arranged marriages! I wonder what the divorce rate is for arranged marriages though.

I have a daughter and I literally stay awake at night worrying about this situation. It scared the hell out of me, things would be so much easier if I could disapprove the relationship but that will only make her want the loser even more. I have plenty of time to develop my plan as my daughter is only approaching 3 years old, but thanks for the great tips! Marvin, thanks for being honest about how you feel as a father. Probably unnecessary, but at least it makes for some fun blog writing.

I have a 7 month old daughter, and we are so far away from worrying about all of these scenarios. Believe me, nothing puts your focus on the present than spending time with an infant. Thankfully for some of us, we just lucked out! Not to minimize, but modern day dating really sucks. Become friends, enjoy each other without the pressures of dating, and then move forward from there. Be the man in her life that sets the standard so high for your daughter that any guy pursuing her will have to eclipse that standard to even consider dating her.

For me it was purely about the dating pool i. I attended highly competitive STEM schools and dated the guys with the highest GPAs in my class — not by conscious design, but in retrospect apparently that was part of what I was attracted to. I say all this to reinforce your suggestions about relocating and meeting people through friends. Attending a college with a high male-to-female ratio really worked in my favor. They get friendzoned too early. I agree that social circles can really help someone snag their ideal mate. When my sister was in medical school she would invite me out along with her med school friends and there were a couple of guys who had inquired about my dating status.

Well, it takes time to find the right one. I was particular in my search and found a partner in crime. But he also found me. Prestigious egineering univerisity Income: Hard-working and devoted partner. Able to fix things around the house and enjoys cars and Star Trek in his free time. Handsome in an understated way. I think it gets down to self esteem.

If yo have low self esteem, you are satisfied with almost anything. The other factor is simply poor judgment. Both factors have a huge influence on self confidence. It affects the kind of mate you may choose. Also, there are a lot more men in prison and otherwise institutionalized than women.

More young men die from reckless behavior than young women. All of this means the men who are marriagable, and even marginal men, have more leverage. The only leverage young women have is not going to bed with men right away. The other factor at play here: I learned this the hard way, myself.

Being in love is never enough. Kirshenbaum also concurs with Sam that dating is definitely a numbers game. This is actually the most compassionate thing you can do for yourself and the other person, as it prevents a lot of wasted time and heartache for both parties. I wish a book like this had been around when I was in my late teens and early 20s.

It would have saved me a lot of time and heartache! I think immaturity, inexperience, and low self esteem probably have a lot to do with it. Anyway that is my pick on paper, so to speak. This article is spot on. Unfortunately, there are other possibilities such as women choosing bad men because their parents were not good examples or never sat their daughters down and discussed these types of men and where she would end up with them.

Those who are immature, naive, insecure, or very shy will face problems as well. This should be required reading particularly for those whose parents are falling down on their job. I must admit that I used to set my standards very low for men. It was a mix of low self esteem and this drive to just be wanted. I was younger college , but thankfully I realized that I am worth more than what these horrible men had to offer.

I started becoming pretty selective in my dating which happened to be mostly online —haha—they had to be nice to me, talk to me and treat me nicely and like a human being. Those were my selective attributes, haha. You would be surprised how many guys did not live up to those standards! When my standards were low, I would put up with it, but since my standards changed, if a man I was dating was rude or mean—I cut it off immediately—no chances for another date.

This led me to go on many first dates. I had all but given up until I found someone on OKCupid that has not only met my standards, but surpassed them in ways I never thought possible. I am so happy that I kept putting myself out there and eventually found him. My dad even likes him: I also meet a lot of women who was raised by their father after their parents divorced. Their father work, cook, clean, fixes everything, attentive etc…. The dilemma, their expectations of men were so high, not a lot of guys can reach the standard.

I chose to live with my father and am the polar opposite of what you have experienced. Now that I am an adult, I fix things around the house, cook, clean, paint, decorate, pay bills…literally do all that it takes to run the household. And while I do not know or care to know how to perform car maintenance, it was me who told my beau a full month ahead of time that the transmission on his truck was going to be dead soon.

Not all ladies raised by their fathers are princesses. They key with Bachelor 3 is that he lives in Manhattan. Much harder to see that happening in SF or Silicon Valley. The way I saw it, I made enough money to live the lifestyle I wanted so the guy would have to bring something to the relationship that I was lacking. After spending more than half a decade with a man most closely resembling guy number 2, I am now in shock by the caliber of men interested in me I live in NYC. I have been in the position of turning down Facebook and Google software engines and am literally currently dating a man completing a fellowship in cardiology.

I am physically fit but certainly not super good looking and I am well read and stay up on current events but am not ivy league educated. What do these type of top-tier men look for? Can it be a healthy relationship when there is a huge salary differential? Your email address will not be published.

Don't subscribe All Replies to my comments Notify me of followup comments via e-mail. His way or the highway. Blames everyone else for his issues. Just think for a minute what this type of person would be like to live with day in and day out. There may be a reason. Look out for a guy who is image conscious, all wrapped up in himself, and needs constant validation on his looks, smarts, and on anything in which he participates.

The pressure and the emotional drain will be great! Why would anyone want to be in this situation? It would be miserable. Life is too short.

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